Living A Defining Life of Happiness

Happiness, what is it? For the majority of our societies, happiness functions as an outcome. You always hear people saying, "When..., then I'll be happy", but that is just a fallacy. Thinking like that only leaves us wanting more and never reaching an absolute value of content. Now, I'm not embarrassed nor do I care how others will react, because I'm an honest individual who speaks his mind, like John Mayer says, "It's better to say too much, than to never to say what you need to say again." Lately, I've been having feelings of depression and loneliness. I felt like a microscopic specie that has been ignored, abandoned and abused. The transition for transfer students is a long, frustrating and hard process. I've been here for more than six months, almost two semester, and still do not feel that my social life is as strong as it was at the University of Maryland. Sadly to say, I've been having second thoughts about Miami and was considering to relocate one last and final time, but this time to actually take my time and examine the choices. I kept telling myself that I'll be happy when I get out of this place. With the conception that I would be able to develop a better social life at a university that is more diverse in the range of student, in terms of socioeconomic status and personal mentalities. Generalization and stereotyping the student body at the University of Miami brainwashed me into thinking that there were no people worth my time, or the people worth my time were dull and not full of live. However, I put on my glasses recently and am able to perceive an environment filled with a handful of down to earth individuals, who share similar interests and beliefs. I realized that if I kept deceiving myself with the notion that happiness would come when I move onto yet another school, then in reality, I would never reach the realms of happiness. The first step in finding happiness begins with the formulation of a true individualistic definition of happiness. To me, happiness is attaining the maximum amount of pleasure in one's lifetime. To that end, pleasure to me, is a feeling of satisfaction. Checking that definition with the course of my life, I would say I am a long ways away from happiness. Throughout the bulk of my adolescence, I have had set, written plan for my duration as a physical being. However, due to uncontrollable circumstances, we should allow room for revision in our outline. And we should not let these events steer us away from achieving our primary goals. Now I am not going to layout my goals for you, because I would like some of them to remain hidden from the public. Though I will tell you, it does include furthering my studies in California at Stanford or Berkeley, becoming an influential person in the world of commerce, and having a beautiful family with a residence in Orange County, California. However that is only a minimal portion of the true definition ideals of happiness in my life. Step three of this process will involve me catapulting my feelings of depression and after a while, I will realize that I have an amazing life and should be more appreciative. I am fortunate enough to have a fully functioning body, physically and mentally, that unfortunately many individuals do not have. Some people have no idea how stimulating it is to be able to see, hear, taste, smell, and even touch. These five objectives may seem simple, but the truth is that we do not value them enough, and we're selfish individuals. We take these major implications in our life for granted, when it is our bodies that can give us the most pleasure. The problem is that we're living a material world, just as Madonna sings about in her 1980's hit, "Material Girl". Living in a material world is not going to help us sustain a true value of happiness. However, materialism is one of the biggest marketing techniques in our societies. I'm not going to lie, personally, I am one of these individuals. I get one good and two seconds later I'm onto the next. Overcoming materialism is as hard as breaking the addiction with heroine. Just like these addicts, we ourselves addicts, suffering from SAS(Shopping Addict Syndrome). Unfortunately there are no additives to help break this compulsive disorder, and it probably will keep breathing until eternity. What you can do to make this habit seem a little better is purchase in moderation. Buy on an interval time schedule, instead of being stimulated to swipe that card every other hour, day, and even week. Now, the focus on my paper has already shifted immensely, so I am going to end it here and tell you to picture this. You are a sixty year old man, who has been unconscious for your life until now. Now, you are able to experience all of the senses. What are you going to do?, I'll leave that one to you, but just remember to stop feeling your way to happiness, actually live a life of happiness.